The old promise is seven years old today. It is the day that I promised several things to my wife. Seven years ago today we were married at the Little Chapel of the Flowers in Las Vegas. On that day, we promised many things to each other...the typical things; honor and obey, cherish and love. However, the one that I remember the most wasn't one of the standards that you see in movie weddings...it was this:
"love means that I can't win if you lose."
When the minister said this, I figured he was speaking specifically about conflict. However, seven years later I've come to realize that he meant much more. He meant that I can't win when I'm only looking out for myself...or more bluntly - when I'm only worried about my wants I will end up losing. The bible says the same exact thing. Ephesians 5 tells us to love our wives as Christ loved the church. Ultimately, that means to put our spouse first in all things.
When I made that promise, I didn't know squat. I still don't know much, but at least I know that I don't know much. I didn't know what that promise really entailed, or even meant. The good thing is that Angie and I have had seven years to learn those lessons together. We continue to learn them. We make mistakes, we get selfish, and we get over it and move on.
If we grow as much in the next seven as we did in the last seven - we'll be in great shape.
Happy Anniversary, sweetie. I love you and I'm sorry for those many times I forget that I can't win if it means you lose.